My mum attends a bible study group, but was left out of birthday celebrations?

How can I make her feel better? I came home from work yesterday and I could see she had been crying. She told me that she was the only one in the group who didn't get an invitation to a member's 80th birthday celebrations (there are only 5 members of the group by the way). I was so upset for her, as my mum has done everything to help this lady in the past. Obviously, the group had been planning this party behind my mum's back. My mum is not a new member to the group at all (all members started the same time), but she hadn't been for 3 weeks to it that's all. The very spritely lady who prayed in the group (the one who's 80 soon) prayed, "Thank you Lord that Linda* understands". Understands what? My poor mum didn't even get a look in.

My mum attends a bible study group, but was left out of birthday celebrations?
Give her a big hug and a kiss from me :O)
Reply:She should learn that Bible Groups, Prayer Groups, and such like are only despicable spiteful malicious cliques where you are In or Out.


She is Out.


So -- Get out!
Reply:TELL HER THAT GOD LOVES HER,AND TO TURN AROUND


AND DUST HER FEET AND FIND A HOUSE THAT ACCEPT


THE TRUE WORD. GOD BLESS
Reply:Tell her that the best handle this is to shove those bibles up their bible clique-ish ways
Reply:Shalom, Sorry about your mother. That's just typical of these kinds of people, Holy Holy Holy when they are reading their books and in the real world they couldn't give a monkey's about you otherwise. Tell your Mother that G-d has maybe done her favour.... now she knows who her friends AREN'T!
Reply:sounds very poor.


most religions can be very clicky. i'm genuinely sorry for you mum because she must feel so let down. but if she's getting a lot of benefits from the group she needs to keep going. if not perhaps she can find another bible study group. Jehovah's witnesses don't celebrate birthdays so it wouldn't have happened there.
Reply:Why don't you ask ur mum to speak to group and find out why she wasn't invited.
Reply:because Christians are no better than anyone else
Reply:Don't worry about it.





Let those ladies act that way if they want to. I feel bad for your mom though. Just pray for your mom and try to make her feel better. It is the best thing that you can do.





Maybe your mom should try to find a church group where the people will respect her. :)
Reply:Your poor Mum, give her a treat then suggest she join another group.
Reply:I really am sorry that happened to your mom. I have seen many things like this happen in my years in the Ministry and God forgive me it just upsets me so much. It does no good to talk to people like that.





If your mom is a Christian I know she "does" understand what happened "and it has nothing to do with being proper".





As a Pastor I would tell your mom that she does not need to be associated with people like that for Bible Study and to either find a new group or heck, start one of her own at her house.





Not out of spite, but for the Study of "The Word" %26amp; the Glory of the Name of Jesus.





But that is just me.
Reply:Thats the problem with some Churches. People attend as a social gathering rather than to truely worship. I dont know how to make her feel better. Shes probably so into it that you cant explain things to her. Maybe you should call the others in the group and tell them that they arent acting like christians and it really hurt your mom that she wasnt invited
Reply:feel really bad for your mum thats not nice at all...maybe she needs to find a new church group and leave this one
Reply:A fine example of the hypocrisy of Christianity and its followers.


Suggest to your mother that she visit a Sikh Gurdwara where she will be made welcome and offered food notwithstanding she is a Christian.





Perhaps then she may reconsider which religion promotes and practices worthy principles.





If your mother is determined to remain a Christian, I understand from acquaintances that the Grace Church is quite friendly and easy going.
Reply:tell her to read





Righteousness exalteth a nation: but sin is a reproach to any people.


Proverbs 14:34
Reply:Christ has always been about including people and loving your neighbor (read Bible Study participants). I know it's a bit awkward but I think your Mom should ask someone in the group why she wasn't invited. Maybe it was an oversite. If it was deliberate your Mom should try her best to forgive these women for their ignorance, buy the 80 year old a small birthday gift and find another Bible Study to attend. She my be able to forgive but she doesn't need to stick around and be treated that way.


Mahatma Ghandi once said that he really liked our Christ but didn't think much of our Christians.


Christians are just people, and sinners, and thoughtless and flawed and Jesus is working on each one in His own way if they've truly put their faith in Him. Tell your Mom that it matters what Jesus thinks of her and not what the other Christian ladies in the group think and that He promises her peace, and tells her not to let her heart be troubled. Just look up.
Reply:i am sorry for your mom. i am also a part of a small group in our church, in fact i am the leader, but i see to it that nobody feels rejected and everything we do is clear.





first, i would like to ask your mom to forgive any offense from the other members. with that, we can be sure that the conflict (on her part is solved). yes, it may appear that she was the victim, the healing starts when she is able to forgive them. to forgive is a decision.





second, i would suggest that she talks one of the members or the leader, either whom she is comfortable with, and brought up the matter. however, if the case is uncomfortable and not that easy, she can actually brought it up to the minister or the pastor. it is just ok to do that. but, just be careful with gossip. it is a better scenario if the two parties will hear each other's side of the issue. i am sure there is a reason why she was not invited. however, it is left to the discussion or the pastor if that is valid or not...
Reply:The miserable two-faced bastards. Sadly, some people think that just by declaring themselves to be Christians is good enough, and that they can continue to be mean, selfish, grabbing, nasty little sods.





Take your mum out for a nice lunch, buy her some flowers, and persuade her to make real friends elsewhere.
Reply:Wow, that sounds like some passive aggresive stuff that goes down in middle school. It's like they were punishing her for missing some meetings. They'll probably be expecting on of two things: 1) That she is contrite, shows up regularly and kisses ***. 2) She leaves the group.