Should I feel bad (I do) about something I inquired about at a women's bible study conscerning divorce?

W were talking about Christian women loving and respecting their husbands despite the fact that they do not believe in God. The pastor's wife (group leader) went on to say that the bible states, "But if the unbeliever leaves, let him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such circumstances...". SO - I went on and asked if the bible also said that a woman is still not supposed to remarry if that husband leaves her... and she politely said that it's a gray area and a whole new topic and to ask more after the group discussion if I would like - then it donned on me that out of the 25+ people in this group some of them probably were divorced and remarried. Sure enough, we split into our smaller groups and one of them was talking about her troubles with her current husband, and her ex-husband over their daughter's custody. Should I feel bad? I do.

Should I feel bad (I do) about something I inquired about at a women's bible study conscerning divorce?
The women in your Bible study know what the Bible says about divorce. They should expect certain questions to come up in Bible study and they already know the answer, so I'm not sure why you should feel bad about it. True, it isn't polite to rub their blatant sin in their faces, but you didn't do that - you just asked about the issue.
Reply:I don't think you should feel bad , you simply addressed what is likely a quite common situation as well as those who may address questions about divorce and remarriage . I think they would be overly sensitive to think you were posing the question directly to those in a divorce and remarriage situation in order to be offensive and I find it a legitimate question .
Reply:It doesn't sound like you were asking the question to be judgmental or obnoxious; it's a legitimate question. The answer is "no": a person is not supposed to re-marry after getting divorced. It's not a gray area - it's black %26amp; white, right there in the bible. BUT it's also forgiveable, just like any other sin. My mom will be 78 years old in October - her 6th husband passed away two years ago. She's saved and I believe she's going to Heaven when she dies. I have a sister who has been married 4 times - she just turned 60. She's saved, and she's going to Heaven. The verse of the day seems to be Romans 8:1 There is no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.





God knows our hearts. People judge others based on actions, but God judges our heart attitudes. Remember that.
Reply:why would you feel bad? all you did was ask a question, and from what you posted it wasnt out of line. i dont think you should worry on it. and, in addition to the above stated, i also believe the Bible provides for divorce in the case of marital unfaithfulness (adultery) and spousal abuse..... God's not a Jerk you know.... but i dont think you should feel bad at all... it was a question... thats the purpose of a Bible study... to ask questions and learn... otherwise, how do you get to know the Word?


... did someone in the study give you a hard time about it? christians can be major buttheads at times.....and big doofus'. i'd say no worries. forget about it. it doesnt affect your salvation....
Reply:No don't feel bad about it...
Reply:That seems like a reasonable question to me. I probably would have asked the same thing in your situation. I probably also would have pointed out that particular verse contradicts Jesus teachings about divorce. Now that makes for an interesting bible study topic.
Reply:No, I don't think that you should feel bad at all. After all, it was a legitimate question and you asked it. I kind of doubt anyone else in the group took offense, but if anybody did, it's her problem and not yours.
Reply:No. And you should have gotten an answer. It is a good question and is not a gray area. She didn't know or didn't want to spell it out.





If an unbeliever has parted from an unbelieving spouse, or was unfaithful, physically abusive (one hit) or left in conflict over faith, without cause, the believer is free to remarry. The unbelieving spouse who remarries is in adultery.





In the case of a believing man; he is no longer qualified to be a pastor or deacon. The believer is free to remarry but only in the faith. If that fails no other marriage is possible; until one of the two dies.





A sermon by William M. Branham, called Marriage and Divorce, is a definitive teaching in relation to the early church. Teaching today is shot full of gray areas.





I didn't like everything I read; but I also saw that, if I had had correct teaching, I "most likely" would not have made some mistakes that critically changed my life. I made those in a sincere effort to do the right thing. Knowing correct doctrine also relieved me of unnecessary guilt. That alone was worth the read.





Now I have been married a few times but never make the front page of Yahoo. And from your class, we can see why this is called an adulterous generation. If it is consolation; a lot of virtuous teachers, giving advise to the adulterous, are going to stand and answer for this generation one day soon.
Reply:i'm a divorced mother of four and i often ask that question too. am i an adultress if i remarry? it's a question we all ask time to time.
Reply:I don't think you should feel bad. I would venture to say that most Christian women who are divorced and remarried, such as myself, are well aware of the fact that the "gray area" they speak of means we should not get remarried.





However, I have my own relationship with the Lord. . .and He knows my heart. And, I truly believe that He planned my escape route out for me in my first marriage that was abusive. . . and I also believe that I have His love in my new marriage. . . .I believe He wants me to enjoy my days. . .and that I should not be bound my entire life by past mistakes I have made. . .I will let God be my judge.





BTW, we all say things we wish we could push back into our mouths. . .that is called being human. {{{{{HUGS}}}}}
Reply:"A man or woman is not bound in such circumstances..." Where's the doubt in this issue? "Bound", it seems to me, refers to the spouse. If the person is not bound to the spouse in those circumstances, why wouldn't they be able to remarry?
Reply:Frankly I think your group discussion leader was remiss in not fully discussing your question with the group. Instead of leading an inspired discussion about a difficult reality that affects Christian and non-Christian alike, she made you feel uncomfortable by insinuating that this was a subject that could only be discussed in private.
Reply:No you shouldn't feel bad.





It was a legitimate question.





And sometimes people need to unburden themselves when they have problems with a spouse or ex-spouse. And if you can't do that amongst friends or good christian forgiving folk, when can you do it?
Reply:Speak the Truth in love. As followers of Christ, we must answer to and face judgment by Him alone, not men or women.
Reply:THE JEBUS is angry with you. Go and pray for forgiveness!

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