My mum attends a bible study group, but was left out of birthday celebrations?

How can I make her feel better? I came home from work yesterday and I could see she had been crying. She told me that she was the only one in the group who didn't get an invitation to a member's 80th birthday celebrations (there are only 5 members of the group by the way). I was so upset for her, as my mum has done everything to help this lady in the past. Obviously, the group had been planning this party behind my mum's back. My mum is not a new member to the group at all (all members started the same time), but she hadn't been for 3 weeks to it that's all. The very spritely lady who prayed in the group (the one who's 80 soon) prayed, "Thank you Lord that Linda* understands". Understands what? My poor mum didn't even get a look in.

My mum attends a bible study group, but was left out of birthday celebrations?
Awwh thats not nice for your poor mum. Christians aint so christian are they unfortunately. My sister is a christian and many many times she has been hurt by the people of the church. Tell your mum when i am 80 i will send her an invite lol. x
Reply:Tell her to join a different cult! one where everyone gets to party!!!!!!!!
Reply:Maybe they thought she joined Jehovahs Witnesses, nah just kidding, but it's time for her to find a new group, why stay somewhere that people upset you
Reply:Let's not be prissy here. Where is the Christian spirit in all this?





But we have this treasure in earthen vessels, that the excellency of the power may be of God, and not of us.


We are troubled on every side, yet not distressed; we are perplexed, but not in despair;


Persecuted, but not forsaken; cast down, but not destroyed;


Always bearing about in the body the dying of the Lord Jesus, that the life also of Jesus might be made manifest in our body.


For we which live are alway delivered unto death for Jesus' sake, that the life also of Jesus might be made manifest in our mortal flesh.


So then death worketh in us, but life in you.








Are we not to follow Christ?





And he said to them all, If any man will come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross daily, and follow me.





How are we to follow if we are overconcerned for the things of this world - just like the world? What difference is there?





Has she not considered what the Lord might be showing her through all this? That there is something better? Something more real than the things of this world?





Pampering the self and self pity is not the true way nor the true way to feel better.





It's not, get a life, but get a death - to the self life.





Then she may know the true life and joy of the Lord.





Then she won't care so much for those petty celebrations, indeed will probably find them as things to be endured.





Take care that you are not a miserable comforter, a counsellor without knowledge, but rather become that one in a thousand.
Reply:myself, I would find a differant bible study group..... I go to 2 bible studies a week and rather a person is new or not we would invite them ..we treat each other as family and wouldnt exclude anyone rather it was a birthday party or whatever..... I`m sorry for your mother being upset....... I would welcome her to my bible study classes.........
Reply:i would find a new group to hang out with. I wouldn't leave anyone left out. The thoughtlessness of leaving her out was pretty cold.


As an adult, you'd think that they wouldn't play these little games no more. She was part of the group as well as anyone else.


Tell your mother there are tons of Bible studies that have wonderful people and wouldn't do this to her.


I hope her spirits lift soon!
Reply:Things like not getting invited to birthday parties with the rest of your friends happen to us since kindergarten. And back then and in our teens etc. we would cry and feel insecure about it.





When you become an adult, you learn to toughen up a bit.





I understand she is probably hurt, but if she is Christian she should forgive and get over it. If it happens again, what is stopping her from going out and explore meaningful friendships with new people who appreciate her more.





Take her out for dinner and laugh over it.
Reply:She should ask them the next time they gather for bible study why they left her out? She should also tell them how that made her feel.
Reply:Friends like that she does not need! this has made me very angry!





Just goes to show that not all people with such strong religious beliefs are 'holier than thou' and don't forgive very easily.





I would tell your mum to start her own group and move away from people who do not appreciate her for the person she is.
Reply:Two things: First, by the lady praying, "Thank you Lord that Linda 'understands'," it's clear that misunderstanding arose at the outset. And it hasn't been clarified. I hope your Mum didn't say 'Amen' to that prayer! The quicker she tells this lady that she does NOT understand, the better. But your Mum sounds so nice that I bet she doesn't want to raise the issue. It will just fester and get worse until she deals with it the biblical way. Once that's done, she will discover she isn't actually bothered about the ommission at all, because a Christian spirit of forgiveness will get her over that hurdle.





Second point; Bless you for loving your Mum so much as to post this Q. Lots of Christians will now be praying for a good resolution to the problem.
Reply:she should find anothe group of like minded people.....the lot you describe seem to me to be comlete low-lifes.





Sorry she`s sad.





Blessed Be
Reply:ahhh.... a perfect example of christianity.....or people who follow it....no different from high school cliques! and just as embarrassing! tell her try atheist for a few weeks and if she doesnt like it she can go back! us atheists are just as nice and we have more fun. We also dont go out of our way to TOTALLY DESTROY a persons character....GO GOD....YOU ROCK!.....

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